The Reluctant Role Model (Real Talk)
This following is adapted from a Facebook post I made after a lengthy conversation with my little brother not too long ago. Figured I’d share it because maybe someone else could relate.
What started out as a brief text message ended up as a phone call (mainly because I was tired of typing and I realized that I could just, y’know, pick up the phone and actually SAY what I was thinking versus sending and iMessage). And what started out as a moment where a big brother is sharing knowledge about the awkward, uncomfortable clusterfuck that is middle school with his younger sibling turned into something a little deeper as I thought about it and as we continued talking.
I may not be anyone’s father at the present time, but this applies to anyone who has children looking up to them: your actions and decisions have more of an impact than you may realize. Children look up to their parents, grandparents, guardians, aunts, uncles, and even their much older siblings (in my case) and what you say and do can affect them a great deal. Look here, here, here, and here if you need empirical data to support this claim.
The example you set and the lessons they learn from you can either be good or bad. And those moments when you think it doesn’t matter may be the ones that matter the most. It is up to you to determine what example you provide. You can either be a hero or a cautionary tale. Choose wisely.